what is Crafty listening?
Crafty listening is listening with: Curiosity A sense of wonder. Yes, it can be difficult to keep on wondering what your child will say or do next when they are so full of sadness, fear, rage, confusion and frustration. Remember, in face-to-face communication, words are only part of the communication. Respect Respecting your child’s feelings can be difficult, especially if your own feelings are churned up, but if you try to stop your child sharing more of their troubles and traumas, they may believe you won’t hold their painful memories and deeper hurts. Attentiveness Pay attention to what’s going on for you when your child is distressed. Listen to your own inner voice, breathe deeply, be aware of the bigger picture and develop the will and the skill to elicit information gently, skilfully and sensitively. Fascination With crafty listening, you will not be bored by your child’s boredom or whinging. You will probe deeper and be genuinely interested and fascinated by their efforts to com
