How does Imago therapy help?
A major assumption of Imago Relationship Therapy is that the psychological purpose of marriage is to provide a context for the healing of childhood wounds and the growth/expansion of the human spirit. At its best, marriage provides us with a secure emotional attachment, gives us someone to turn to at the end of the day, strengthens our identity as a lovable worthwhile person, and gives a reason to continue growing and becoming more competent in the world. We have chosen our Imago match to help us with these psychological tasks. To quote Harville again, “romantic love is nature’s way of getting us attached to an imcompatible person so that we will do the healing and growing we need to do.” Romantic love is supposed to end, but so is the power struggle. When we successfully work through the issues in the power struggle, we form a more organic bond, based on respect, maturity and valuing of our partner. “Reality love is romantic love transformed by wisdom and experience.” Imago therapy he
