Would I be cheating if he can perform due to health reasons?
I have been in a situation similar to yours. I decided to move on, after trying everything else. I have 2 answers to your question. One is quick & simple, & the other is long but may help you more. The quick answer is that, in my opinion, if you have honestly & completely explained your needs & feelings to your husband, & explained that you urgently need to get SOME sexual contact SOMEWHERE for your mental, emotional, & physical wellbeing, AND if your husband has refused to do what he CAN do (showing concern for your feelings, talking honestly about the issues, having some physical contact such as hugging, cuddling, pleasuring you, or at least being there with you, even if he can’t get it up himself), AND you have warned your husband that your needs are so great that you MUST get them met somehow, AND your husband STILL refuses to be flexible or offer help, THEN you are not “cheating” if you have sex with someone else. Cheating would be doing it behind his back, lying & keeping it secr
You could have this marriage annulled based on two factors: 1) You haven’t consummated the marriage, and 2) He married you under false pretense, meaning he lied to you or kept something from you. I would give him an ultimatum stating that you need to have an open marriage, or you’re outta here. You cannot live like this. If you have to resort to cheating, I guess just keep it sooooo discrete because everyone loves to judge other people.
