Why would some people have no emotional attachment to their family?
The answer is: they didn’t grow up like you. But before you think you’re at a disadvantage- let me tell you that some people have too close of a relationship with their family and fail to cut the cord well into their adult lives. This closeness is a form of emotional incest and objectification of the child on their parent’s part. After all, how controlling is it to not allow an adult child their autonomy and privacy and to still rule over them? You have every right to set a boundary with your family. They have provided you with enough evidence that your loyalty is undeserved. Don’t let other people give you a hard time on this. If you are crossing boundaries by lamenting your lack of closeness to these people, then find a trusted advisor to talk to in private. They will help you feel better about the separation. Don’t kid yourself that you are alone in this dilemma- the majority of people in therapy have issues because of their parents.
