Why the children have to send there parents to an old folks home?
Because they are not capable of attending to their medical needs. My grandmother is in a nursing home. This will mark her first year there. She’s 90 years old and in poor health. Her children (she has five) were taking turns watching her and staying with her at night. She did not want to leave her house and neither did her husband. So, someone had to stay. The problem is her children have their jobs and families. My brother is still in High School and needs my mom to fix meals and do laundry. There is no one to help the children while they are helping with their mom. My grandma wouldn’t listen to the children about taking her meds. She’d argue about going to the bathroom – didn’t want to. She wore depends (the adult diaper) so someone would have to change her througout the day. She’d get mean and incoherrent at night. She’d insist the meds were poision and she was being killed by her children. She’d wake up and deny the whole thing. She’d have lucid moments here and there, but she was
They don’t. There are many people who have elderly parents that can’t be left alone for many reasons (they require too much care, they require supervision so they don’t just wander off, etc.) so they have to choose between having the elderly parents come and live with them, or placing the elderly parents in assisted living or a nursing home, depending on the level of care and/or supervision the parent needs. Some children have their parents come live with them and they end up taking care of the parents. Others place their parents in assisted living or a nursing home because they are just not able to provide the level of care or supervision that the parents need. Some elderly parents literally require care around the clock, and it’s not reasonable for the children (who probably have children of their own) to quit their jobs and take care of their parents 24/7. It’s never an easy choice, but sometimes there really IS no choice.
