Why not just get a freebie abuse checklist on the Internet?
Many of the free checklists focus on a few of the “popularized” symptoms of abuse, rather than on the full constellation of symptoms that constitute this syndrome—the 5 “red flags”—the 5 distinctive, defining core characteristics. I’m guessing you want to go deeper in your understanding of what this syndrome truly is and clarify for yourself if “intimate partner violence,” as defined by the professional literature, is what troubles you. I’m also imagining that you want your understanding of domestic abuse to be relevant to your world, your inner world and your outer world. You won’t get this personalization from a mere checklist that does not evaluate your results, or analyze and interpret your answers. Your ability to draw meaningful conclusions becomes guesswork at best with these freebie checklists. Maybe I don’t really want “understanding,” because blindness is bliss. While it is true, blindness may feel like bliss; knowledge is power! If you know what you are dealing with, you wil
