Why Is Alanon?
” goes a lot deeper. Alanon is a fellowship of spouses, family, and friends of the alcoholic. It is not an underground activists group which plots against the alcoholic in an effort to get him sober or keep him sober. If the alcoholic is helped through Alanon, it is a side benefit only. The why of Alanon is to offer help and serenity to the person whose life is affected by the alcoholic. Alanon uses the exact same Twelve Steps that the A.A. people use. My wife, though not an alcoholic, was also powerless over alcohol. She was powerless over the alcohol that I drank. Her life had become unmanageable in the process of living with an active alcoholic. My sobriety did not immediately change the status of that relationship either. Her methods of coping with my alcoholism were ineffective, and set up behavior problems in her life that were not compatible with our mutual recovery. Even with my sobriety she had to learn that recovery was my total responsibility. She also learned that my drinki
