Why does romance stop after marriage?
This is how all relationships start. It’s new and exciting. When you get married most people feel that they don’t need to try anymore because they already got what they wanted. I am sure you have changed in your sex after you got married. Most women are more kinky and exciting during sex before marriage and after marriage, it’s less enthusiastic and boring. Some of the spark does fade in time but it’s up to us to keep bringing it back. Go on dates more often. Yes married people can go on dates still. Have a night of fun. He will be reminded that it was fun to court you and he may get that feeling back once you guys get back in your groove. Change up the sex and make it really exciting. Sometimes men change once the girlfriend becomes the wife. So act like his girlfriend, be flirty and admire him. Be spontaneous like before! Good luck.
Marriage doesn’t mean a certificate, it means being joined. If two people are not joined together they are not really married. Perhaps a better question would be.. Why does marriage stop when “married.” However, as we know there are varying levels by which one can be joined or married to someone else. I will give you a tip about your relationship that appears to have gone wrong. Relationships are as much about learning about ourselves as learning about the other person – and the lesson shouldn’t be about the ‘me’ but rather about learning who we (both) are. Think of it as a learning experience in your spiritual growth for you to know who *you* are as well as him, then perhaps you won’t be so disappointed that your partner doesn’t always do as *you* would like. Then you might try to be more romantic towards him… I feel sure you must have some female charm that can be used. 😉 Try to be his true friend in all sorts of ways… yet don’t try *too* hard, because it has to be both ways.
I have found after being with my husband 16 years, married for 11 a few things. 1. recognize romance in the little things, anytime that he does anything for me I reward him well. 2. Don’t be afraid to take the steps yourself. I would love to have my husband sweep me off my feet for a romantic trip. I know he won’t so I plan it myself. Plan your own date nights etc, it won’t feel the same at first but you will see a romantic side to him come out. 3. look at what you are doing different that he misses, I pretend daily that my husband and I are still dating. That means that I send him silly, sexy, flirty emails and get dressed up just for him. I also make sure that we have silly fun together. Do you both golf? I know this sound silly but my husband and I love to play video games against each other. Not a lot but maybe 3 times a month we play something like “metal of honor”. We have water balloon fights and all kinds of silly stuff. He makes me laugh and that is romance in itself. To me se
Truthfully it sounds like to me that you are putting all the responsibility on him to keep things exciting. I am sure he wants ti to be like when you guys were dating as well. I sure as hell wish my marriage was like that. All of the butterflies in my stomach, the rush you get when you kiss for the first time, the passionate sex. I am sure he is still crazy about you. We are at the age when you are building a family as well as a career so you have to focus on so many things. First of all never expect it to be like when you guys first met because it never will. This shouldn’t be a depressing thing to you, even though I am sure it is. The relationship has matured just as you guys have matured. You now have to count on each other, and trust each other in order to keep the boat afloat. The best thing you can do is tell him your concerns but for heavens sake do not drop it on him like “he is not doing enough”. Because for one it will get you no where and two it is a joint venture. Honestly,
