Why does having disobedient children unfit a man for church leadership?
While children are little the father is responsible for what they do. I don’t think a pastor can be held completely responsible for what his adult children do, because God himself has rebellious children. Nevertheless, right parenting can produce a well-organized, respectful, obedient home while the children are smaller. So what you’re looking for as a church when you assess a man for the office of elder/pastor is evidences in his children and in his marriage that he is a good, loving, strong, organized, and thoughtful manager. You want to see that he knows how to both bless, love, kiss and hug a child as well as discipline a child so that they learn appropriate reverence and obedience. And you can see that in children. Do they run wild and does he feel helpless around them? Or do they have a sense of respect and obedience so that when daddy looks and waves his finger they stop what they’re doing. And you can tell whether he is helpless at home to bring that about or not. I do want to
