Why does everyone think teen moms are bad parents?
Okay thanks for the advice on mine cause that made me feel better and I am pregnant and I am 13 but I dont think of myself as a bad mom I think that I am unprepaired but I will love my baby and I think that you will be a good mom and I think that people think that we are unprepaired and If we are then they are just as much unprepaired as us.
Well, I don’t teen parents are bad parents as a rule….but I do think a 15 year old is a child, a teenager, but a child no less. It is harder for a child to be a parent, to be an adult….it is hard for me to parent and I have a husband and am closing in on 40. People are wrong to assume you won’t be a good mother based on your age…..but you a 15 year old is very different from a 30 year old…just in fact……just by those 15 years of maturity and experience, education, work, income, relationship status….but lots of older people are bad parents too. When I became a mother I was married, with my husband for 6 years, I had a masters degree from college, lived on my own, a lovely home and was in a position to stay home and raise my child. When I was 15 years old, I couldn’t even drive a car yet, did not have a steady boyfriend, and hadn’t even finished high school…… This was the difference in one person. So to suggest that there is no difference between a 15 year old and an old
I am going to be totally honest. I realize a lot of people think that all teens are bad moms. But, I think it is mainly because, when you are 15, there is still so much to learn, and do. I mean…Im 34, and I have tons of stuff to still learn. I think a lot of it has to do with you needing to finish school, and then there is the fact, that, technically…you are still a child. BUT, having said that…I dont think that makes you a bad mom. I think that a “bad mom” doesnt depend on age, but, it depends on exactly how good of a mom you are. The only thing you can do is be the best mom you can be. I was 19 when I had my child, and I didn’t really want kids, and I had NO IDEA what to do with him when he got here! But, he is the best thing that ever happened to me. He made me a better person. I probably made mistakes, but, you could be a 40 year old mother and make mistakes….ALL mothers make mistakes..no one is perfect. Maybe the reason people make the assumption that teens are bad parents
My concern is that a typical 15 year old mother faces more obstacles than typical 30 year old mother does and she’s less well equipped to deal with them because she lacks life experience and brain maturity. Sorry, but age is not just a number. Physiologically speaking, the human brain is still developing until around the age of 25 (later for males than females) and one of the last things to fully develop is impulse and emotional control. Two things which are so very vital in being a parent. There are plenty of terrible mothers in their 30’s and great mothers in their teens (my mother had her first at 19 and she is a fantastic mother). But on the whole, motherhood is something better handled as an adult. And while I wouldn’t assume anyone is a ****, I do question how responsible a teenager can be if they managed to get pregnant in the first place. Mature and responsible teenagers might make decent mothers but mature and responsible teenagers don’t get pregnant. TD me if you want, you as
