Why does a wedding bring out the worse in bridemaids?
It’s stress. As much as the bride has on her mind before the wedding, so too do the bridesmaids. It can be expensive being asked to be a part of someone’s wedding, considering the dress, the hair, the makeup, the shoes, the bachelorette party, the bridal shower and a gift. Also, remember that these are women who you’re close with, but it doesn’t mean all of them will get along. Very often, bridesmaids don’t even know each other until the wedding planning goes into full swing, so conflicting personalities can cause problems. I was recently in a wedding with one very bossy, very demanding bridesmaid and another who wouldn’t pull her weight in ANYTHING! She had an excuse for everything and complained the whole way, so between her and the overly-zealous sister-in-law-to-be, the rest of us had quite a headache on our hands.
I think it brings out the worst in the bride not the bridesmaid. As a bridesmaid it is NOT your duty to be there everytime the bride calls to debate if the napkins should be peach or cream. It is NOT your job to run all over town trying to find her aqua heart-shaped crystals or whatever cracked idea she has at the time. It is NOT your job to sit through 4 dress shopping sessions while she makes up her mind and it is definately NOT your job to turn into a bobblehead and say ‘whatever you want it’s your wedding day’ when she quotes some outrageously expensive dress. It is NOT you job to throw the bride a fancy shower or drop a few hundred getting her smashed at her bachelorette. All of the above things are nice but when you turn bridezilla I don’t blame your friends for telling you to go shove it. Look it up. Traditionally a bridesmaid’s job is to show up on wedding day. Help you there (within reason), make sure your gifts get where they should, possibly help teardown and clean pu the re
One upon a time, there were four absolutely sweet, charming young ladies. One was to be a bride, the others to be her attendants. The bride hated shopping, so with sketch book in hand, designed a perfectly horrid gown for her sisters and friends to wear. Yet, the other young ladies resented wearing such an ugly frock, with no input of their own having been allowed. The friends conspired to go shopping together and search for a better solution to wear for the grand occasion. However, the bride would not accept any such costumes the young ladies tried on. Instead, she stuck to her plan. Off to the seamstress the bride and her sketchbook headed with the angry bridesmaids in tow. When the seamstress saw the design, a tactful one was she. For each “little” ugly, she suggested a much more pleasing alternative. “This will make the dress “hang better.” Or, “this top will flatter all of the bridesmaids a bit more.” Oh, what a wonderful seamstress was she. A true saint she must be! The wedding d
