Why do the words woman and depression go together a little better than youd like em to?
Depression affects women twice as much as it affects men. But then, you probably already knew that. No mystery there. The mystery is in the why. The mystery is in the ‘why me?’ And the mystery is in what to do about it. It starts in puberty, when so many girls also lose their confidence and self-esteem. All kids are under enormous pressure. They get it from all directions. At certain ages, this pressure is dramatically increased by the phenomenon called ‘the shame of separation’. It’s the natural separation that occurs in the development of all children. And it creates, as its byproduct, shame. Shame comes in ‘waves’ at various ages. One wave occurs when kids break from their father (or fathering image) and bond instead with their friends. This usually occurs at the ages of eleven to thirteen, for both boys and girls. Perhaps not coincidentally, it takes place at the same time as puberty. (All children break from their mothers and bond with father around the age of five.) The rage of h
