Why do people make the same bad relationship choices again and again?
Usually there’s logic to these choices, but we’re unaware of it, and it takes some time and work to understand what’s going on. The cause is often psychological: we’re replaying some tendency, pattern, or emotionally disturbing event from years ago. The orthodox view is that we need to explore the causes of this replay in some detail. In the tougher cases this may be true. However, for many people, just being aware of their vulnerability to certain situations and with certain kinds of people is enough. This is why the Blind Spot Test on this site can be so useful: forewarned is forearmed. The other elements of the SRD program can also help us see into our particular darkness, but only real insight into the pattern itself can keep us from repeating the bad choice.
