Why do many women have “the list” in the first place and unrealistic expectations of men?
We don’t realize that we do this. I didn’t realize I was picky. I think a lot of women have the same attitude as I did and thought, ‘I’m not picky, I just know what I want and I have high standards.’ I’m not saying to anybody to lower your standards. I’m just saying have high standards about what really matters in terms of making you happy…It’s not about looking for the perfect person, it’s about looking for the perfect partner for you. Who do you want to go through life with? You say in the book that men have more realistic expectations in dating than women. Why? …Men are much better able to compartmentalize. Women think that the guy that they find has to be everything. Men think, ‘I have to be in love with her, but she doesn’t have to be everything.’ Your book has sparked a lot of controversy. Why do you think this book strikes such a chord and, sometimes a nerve, with people? I got two really mean letters. One said that the reason you are still single is that you are ugly. Hooray
