Why do Christians bully women to stay in abusive marriages because they say divorce is always wrong?
The bible is pretty clear about divorce. God hates it under any circumstances, but does permit it under two: 1) an unbelieving spouse who desires to leave the believing spouse and 2) divorce due to adultery, with the wronged spouse being unable to forgive. Those are the only two permissable reasons. Now, does that mean God excuses abuse? Not at all. Husbands are called to love their wives as Christ loved the church. Christ was most certainly not abusive. But a husband’s disobedience to God’s Word, his sin, does not excuse a wife from being disobedient as well. So what is the right biblical response? I think there is more than one correct response. Seperation: for the wife (and her children) to get out of the abusive situation, seek counsel, and pray for her husband. Seperation and prayer allows God to work in her husband’s heart, to bring him to repentance. The wife may continue to be a good witness to her husband during that time. The husband certainly needs to repent and seek counsel
