Why Do Children Power Struggle?
A sense of power is a basic social and emotional need. Until about the age of two, a child has very little sense of self. The child and parent are one in the childs world. Somewhere in the second year, the child begins to develop a concept of self as separate from the parent. This discovery coincides with the recognition that behavior by the child can create a resultant emotion or behavior by the parent! So a child is learning by observation what causes mom or dad to react, and this reaction creates a sense of power in the child (as the one who causes the reaction). What Did I Do To Cause My Child to Power Struggle With Me?! As crazy as it sounds, we do in fact accidentally cause our children to power struggle with us! Some of you may object to this idea and for that I just ask you to stay with me a moment. By taking responsibility for causation, you will actually get your parental power back! If you caused it, then you can un-cause it! The most powerless position you can take is to bl
