Why are some women attracted to older men?
I find myself only sexually attracted to older men. It is on a purely physical basis. My boyfriend is 26 years older than me (I’m 23, he’s 49). Besides him being very handsome anyway, there is something about the lines of his face, he roughness of his skin, it just appeals to me. He looks nothing like my father. I don’t like being “spoiled”, we share things equally. People always say I seem much older than I am and it really doesn’t feel like age plays any kind of role when we are together. It offends me when people automatically assume that just because you’re a younger woman with an older man, it must mean you’re a gold digger. It’s offensive to my tastes, and it’s offensive to my boyfriend, as it implies that his personality and his looks add up to nothing, when it is exactly those traits that made me attracted to him from the moment I met him. Older men do also tend to be more relaxed and not so hungup over everything as well.
They may be looking for the stability and strength that an older person might give them. They may feel older inside and not relate much to their peers. They may be after money and position that a younger person may not have attained yet. They may like a man that looks and feels mature. I know I have never liked the slim, boyish look that most young men have. I like a sense of maturity and self-confidence that is based on something besides being ‘young and know it all”. I’m sorry but wisdom and maturity take time and younger people don’t have either, usually. But then again, their is alot to be said for growing up together and growing INto each other. I met my husband when I was 14 and he was 19. We waited till I was 18 to marry and have been married for almost 34 years, now. We have grown closer and learned from each other. It helped build the relationship into an equal partnership without one being the overall stronger one. He has his strengths and I have mine.
