Why are so many people enabling their kids?
I moved out of my dad’s and in with my mom when I was 19. I worked full time and my check when to pay for groceries and things I needed. I realised I didn’t want to be dependent on my parents, so I joined the military at 20. My husband joined at 18. (We met when we were 21) The only amount of money we have ever gotten from our parents, besides b-day presents, has been $20 to buy some diapers and milk when we were absolutely broke. We have stayed with parents for a total of 4 1/2 months during moves while we looked for a place. That is the extent we have asked of our parents. They never gave us downpayments, never paid for college, never paid our bills. We have had some pretty tough times, especially when transitioning from the military to civilian, but we’ve always made it through. Now my husband has a great job, we have a nice apartment, and we’re saving for our own house. I’m proud of everything we’ve done and I hope my children will be the same way. We are putting a little money awa
It’s nuts. People enable their children because they didn’t have something and want to give everything to their kids, I’ve found. Or, they make it too easy for their kids. You know what my parents did? When I turned 16 they gave me a pair of dress shoes and a white shirt and said find a job. I had one within 48 hours, and from that point on I bought my own car, my own clothes, my own lunches (I was always welcome to eat with my family at breakfast and dinner) I moved out at 18 and got married. I am grateful for my parent’s stern approach at raising me. A lot of those enable kids really resent their parents and don’t know why.
