Why are emotionally unavailable people and love addicts attracted to each other?
The initial attraction occurs because of what feels familiar”. What is familiar comes from things that were experienced during childhood. These issues DO NOT occur because of being in a bad relationship” prior to meeting you. These experiences are painful and very familiar, even if you do not consciously recognize it as such. Please remember that these childhood issues dont necessarily constitute abuse. They may also be in the form of an emotionally unavailable parent. Love addicts and those who are emotionally unavailable are like magnets: they are attracted to those with the opposite issues. Just like perpetrator and victim. Just like sugar and warm water. Just like grass and soil. They are mirrors to the issues inside ourselves that we must heal to attract health relationships. Neither of these types are usually attracted to non-addicted” people. When these types meet the non-addicted person, the response is normally a reaction similar to but theyre sooo boring”, theres just no chem
