Who fears commitment more, men or women?
The media would have you believe that it’s men. Countless magazine and newspaper articles counsel women on how to “get a guy to commit,” but experience tells me that it’s women who are skittish about taking a relationship to the next level. A career coach recently told me that her 29-year-old son has dated many women who are in no hurry to get married. “Women have so many options now that I didn’t have years ago,” she says. “Why should they hurry into marriage?” “This doesn’t apply to me,” you may be saying (or shouting). “Of course I want to meet and marry a wonderful man!” But it’s possible you do and you don’t. Perhaps you fear being stuck with a man who ultimately bores you. Or betrays you. Maybe you don’t want to give up your name, or don’t want to be the one “balancing” career and family. Or perhaps the prospect of being responsible for writing 125 post-wedding thank-you notes makes you somewhat resentful (in which case, consider asking your husband-to-be to share the burden). If
