Who do I choose as my maid of honor?
1. If one is married and the other isn’t, you can have a maid and a matron of honor. 2. You could have “co-maids of honor”. 3. Talk to your sister and ask her if she is up to the responsibility as she is far away, has two kids, and is pregnant. It might be a relief to her that you brought it up as it sounds as if she’s snowed under without the extra pressure of being a MOH. If you do choose your best friend, just make sure your friend keeps her very much in the loop by calling and e-mailing to discuss colors, shower themes, etc. You sound like you have a great sister and wonderful best friend and your wedding will be an event to remember. Best wishes.
Is your best friend married? If not, you can have her as your maid of honor and your sister as matron of honor (I know, it’s just semantics, but you get around having two “maids of honor” that way). But, most importantly, have who you feel most comfortable having. If you feel that your best friend is the best choice, then do it. She knows you well, she will be able to really help you out in the planning process and she will be able to keep you calm and organized on your big day. Talk to your sister about your choice and makes ure that she understands that you love her and that you still want her in your wedding as a bridesmaid, but that you are concerned that she has too many other responsibilities and distractions right now to really be what you need in a maid of honor because she lives far away, because she has two kids and another on the way and you don’t want her to have to add on the responsibility of planning a shower, planning a bachelorette party and giving a toast. Tell her th
