Who controls the mentoring relationship?
Since the mentoring relationship is born out of the mentee’s need and desire, it is the mentee who controls the relationship. For example, the mentee should initiate the meetings and set the agenda. In addition, it is up to the mentee to decide if she or he should take the advice that the mentor provides. Watching a mentee ignore “good” advice can be difficult, but a mentee can only accept advice that she or he believes will be a benefit, and that belief may take time to develop. 9. Is mentoring confidential? That is something for the mentee and mentor discuss at the start of the mentoring relationship, as well as during the relationship itself. Do the mentee and mentor want information from the relationship discussed outside of the relationship? Does the mentee want others to know that she or he is being mentored? Does the mentor want others to know of her or his mentoring activities? Those are questions that should be discussed when the mentee and mentor complete the Mentoring Memo o
