who appoints a guardian?
While your question is a little confusing, here is a good faith attempt at an answer. Generally speaking, in order to appoint a guardian over an incapacitated person you must first file a petition for guardianship in the county in which your incapacitated mother is domiciled. With this petition, you must notify all interested persons (i.e., your family members). If any family member objects to you being guardian over your mother, then there will be a trial and the court will decide which individual should be guardian. In Indiana, the court first looks to the spouse, then to any power of attorney, then to children, siblings, nephews/nieces, and finally close friends. The court will also look at the location of the prospective guardians in relation to the incapacitated person. So if you live in Raleigh, North Carolina, but your sister lives down the street from your mother’s nursing home, then your sister will be viewed more favorably. Alabama will probably have statutes/case law setting
