When did she ovulate?
If her period is only due in 4 days, it’s worth it to have her take a pregnancy test. And have her take it with you there. I’m not saying you need to watch her actually pee on the stick or anything, just make sure you’re there to look at it right after she takes it. If she lied about being on the pill, who knows what else she might lie about. If it’s negative, she should take it again in two weeks or so (again with you present), like Slarty Bartfast said. Also, breast tenderness and nausea could be pregnancy symptoms, but most women don’t experience nausea until several weeks after conception (average is 5 1/2 weeks according to this website. It’s more likely pre-menstrual symptoms, but IANAD, just someone who took a women’s reproductive health class back in college. She tracks her cycle online, has unprotected sex regularly, and lies about using birth control. She thinks enough about her cycle
I just want to reiterate that vaginal bleeding is not a reliable indicator that ovulation has occurred. There are lots of things (stress, obesity, excessive exercise, use of contraceptive hormones in the recent past) that can cause anovulation. When there is no synchronous pattern of cycling hormones and regular ovulation, vaginal breakthrough bleeding occurs erratically and can often just look like a “period” that came a few days earlier, was a little lighter or heavier or whatever. With irregular menstruation, you really have *no idea* when that next ovum is going to pop out. Trying to figure out your risk through your partner’s irregular menstruation pattern is not possible. You need to take a pregnancy test.
And usually ovulation occurs right in the middle of two periods. Sorry, but this is flat-out wrong. The length of a woman’s cycle is NOT an accurate indicator of when she ovulated, and ovulation can frequently occur throughout a range of days in the menstrual cycle besides the exact halfway point between two periods. Ovulation depends (as mentioned upthread) on the interaction and timing of a woman’s Follicle Stimulating Hormone and Lutenizing Hormone — each on their own cycle of varying length. In other words, five different women with 28-day cycles could routinely ovulate on five different days in that cycle. Woman 1 could ovulate on Day 10, Woman 2 could ovulate on Day 12, Woman 3 could ovulate on Day 14, Woman 4 could ovulate on Day 16, and Woman 5 could ovulate on Day 18 — and they could all still begin their menstrual periods on Day 28, even though only one of them ovulated “right in the middle.” The only way, short of regular ultrasound tests, to get an idea of when ovulation
what are your guesses on my chances of becoming a papa In general, women who are worried about pregnancy do not wait for x number of days into the future to decide to get tested. They go to the store and buy a test kit as soon as they can. You can buy them at the dollar store. A woman who is worried about pregnancy doesn’t fake her birth control. Your girlfriend’s actions indicate she’s not all that worried, and if you aren’t a papa this time, barring infertility or taking protective action on your own, you will be.
Sorry, pigpen, but the page you link to contains misleading and even factually incorrect information. For example, this… The first day of a woman’s period is 14 days after ovulation. The number of days between ovulation and the start of the next period is fairly consistent among all women. …offers a potentially disastrous oversimplification of the luteal phase. The luteal phase (the amount of time between ovulation and the beginning of the period) is NOT “fairly consistent” (i.e., 14 days) among all women. It is typically a broader range of about 12-16 days, but shorter and longer luteal phases (say 10 days, or 18 days) are definitely not unheard of. The fact that 14 happens to be the average number is totally, utterly, completely irrelevant for the purposes of looking at when any one individual woman might be fertile. What IS consistent about the luteal phase is that for individual women, their own phase will be nearly constant from cycle to cycle. A woman with an 11-day luteal ph
