When can forgiveness, or at least friendly terms come after an affair that destroyed our family?
I really feel for you. Hopefully your son will never have to know the pain of having made a terrible life-changing decision that haunts him for the rest of his days. Forgiveness is something that we all hope we GET, but sometimes we are a little selfish to GIVE. I would write him a letter. Let him know you messed up and wish you could go back, but realistically you can’t. Let him know you love him and that your arms are open should he EVER need you. I would mention that I was going for the mastectomy and just wanted him to know in case something happens that you live with this every day, and miss him terribly. Regardless of what people say here, it is not a “let me play victim” manipulation tactic. The fact of the matter is, that while most mastectomies go without a hitch, suppose YOU were the one in a zillion that died on the OR table, God forbid? He should know. At any rate, you cannot force your son to forgive you or talk to you. I feel your pain so much because I know where you are
