Whats Wrong with Permissive Parenting?
Most good parents hate the idea of causing their child grief. They don’t want to incite a tantrum, and they certainly don’t want their child to be angry at them. But setting limits is an important part of good parenting. Infants’ wants are identical to their needs. But over time, that changes. Toddlers’ wants are often in direct opposition to their long-term developmental needs and safety. When parents don’t make that developmental leap and learn to set limits, their children don’t develop the ability to tolerate frustration or to manage themselves. These children are often referred to by others as “spoiled.” Kids need limits for healthy emotional development. Not unreasonable limits, and definitely empathic limits in the context of a strong parent-child connection, but kids do need appropriate limits. When parents don’t set limits, here’s what happens: 1. The parents grant desires that should not be granted and have harmful consequences, such as, for example, regularly staying up too
