Whats the main reason todays relationships, dating and marriages end?
Cheating and lying are definitely two of the biggest reasons relationships end, but I don’t think either of them are the main reason. Personally, I think the main reason relationships, dating, and marriages end is because people nowadays have no real sense of commitment to making a relationship work. Individuals are so quick to give up at the first sign of trouble, or the first time something bad happens in a relationship, that relationships don’t stand a chance. Decades ago, couples worked through problems. Whether it be infidelity, lying, financial, whatever, they just cared enough to try and make the relationship work. Today, heck, after a serious enough argument, people are saying, “oh i don’t think this is going to work”. Just my two cents…
The main reason is weakness of commitment and lack of belief in the importance of relationships. There is no way to avoid disagreements and problems in relationships. But whether these disagreements and problems lead to break up or not depends a lot on how committed people are to each other and how much patience and effort they are willing to put in to resolve their relationship problems.
Believe this or not, but there is one unifying thread binding together all social change in the developed world since WWII. It is the economy. The economy is the single greatest cultural force affecting our lives: it is not politics or religion and you have no choice in it. Welcome to your real ball and chain. Marriage and relations in general are more difficult because: • Both partners now work. Whilst “liberating” for women, it has left little time to devote to the house, to raising children, to creating and maintaining stable relationships. • The fact that both partners work increases stress in both parties and the likelihood that they will find another partner at work. • The economy encourages individual gain. Having a certain partner can be seen as a marker of your individual success. This creates more problems… • Often a spouse is felt to tie down the other if the other places a higher importance on their career. • One partner’s wage may outstrip the other’s creating resentment.
I think it’s that the obsession wears off and love isn’t there. Too many people rush into a marriage when they haven’t experienced anything beyond an obsession. The truth is love is something we have to CHOOSE to do, and too many people are too self-serving to actually stop and do something for someone else. I think the extension of this problem is that different people feel loved by different things. There are five basic love languages, each of us speak one (sometimes 2) of these languages. These five love languages are Physical Touch, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Words of Affirmation, and Acts of Service. If you are a “Words of Affirmation” person, you feel loved by being encouraged and complimented. While you understand this, if you’re with someone who speaks “acts of service”… and you try to speak your own language, they don’t feel loved…. but if you do little things to help them around the house, they will feel loved. It’s worth taking time to learn your partners love langua
