Whats the difference between a baby nurse, a post-partum doula, and my own very helpful mother?
Typically, a baby nurse cares for the baby only, whereas doulas are trained to care for the needs of the family, from mother to older siblings. Doulas also help mothers with breastfeeding and screen for post-partum depression. And while no one can replace your mother, her experience with infants was perhaps a long time ago. She may not be familiar with some of the parenting ideas you have been considering.