Whats the cardinal sin of wedding planning?
Without a doubt, it’s letting the mother of the bride hijack the wedding preparations. The bride must put her foot down. The other big stumbling block happens when the bride or groom makes a large financial commitment—about the wedding or otherwise—without consulting the other person. This can be particularly difficult for the bride, who may have an image of her wedding in her mind that may not match what they can afford. I encourage couples to think about a realistic budget, and make sure they talk through major financial decisions together—anything over a certain amount must be a joint decision. What if someone gets cold feet? It happens. Some panic that once they’re married, they’ll fall off the face of the planet, that their old lives will vanish. I ask my clients, What are you really afraid of: Not seeing your friends, or that if you do, your husband will disapprove or get jealous? Or are you nervous about him being out without you? Sometimes I’ll meet someone one-on-one to get at
