What would be the safest to leave an abusive marriage?
You only have one option sweetie. You must seek help from a battered wives shelter in your area. You say if you go to a shelter he will go through your things and “destroy all the things you value”. Well, you need to begin by valuing your life more than any of your material possessions. Whatever possessions you have can be replaced… your well being and you life cannot be. Should your situation become much worse you could find yourself in serious danger. It sounds impossible for you to get out with things of value (except for yourself, your unbattered body and your life). I would suggest that the first opportunity you have to to flee to a shelter you should do so as quickly as you can. Get the information you need ahead of time and be ready to split the minute it’s possible. What your husband is doing is actually holding you prisoner by captivating every aspect of your life. You need to get control of yourself in a protected environment and that is a battered wives shelter. Get to the
