What to do about 4 1/2 year old tantrums?
As for tantrums. Ignore, move to a safer area if you feel you need to, otherwise ignore!!!!!! You just stand over her, look her in the eye and say, when you are finished you may join us in reading a bedtime story or another quiet activity to get her to bed and go grab a book and sit on her bed and begin reading. And I have to agree, there may be other issues. But at 5 she has better communication than throwing tantrums. When she’s in a good mood during the day, sit her down and talk to her (without distractions-baby brother) and ask her why she likes staying over at grandma’s rather than at home. There may be other underlying issues that you haven’t thought about.
Your daughter is behaving like a spoiled brat because you allow that behavior to continue by giving her what she wants when she has tantrums. Stop giving in to her demands. The next time she starts acting that way, DO NOT give her what she wants. Ignore her. Leave the room. Let her cry herself out. When she’s calm again, tell her that when she acts badly, she will not be given anything, but if she behaves, she might. Also, do what I do with my younger cousin. Start testing her. When she asks for something or wants something, deny her. Tell her “No.” Watch her reaction. If she has another tantrum, ignore her and let her scream until her throat is dry. If she simply behaves after you deny her, wait and see if she’ll ask again. If she does and she still behaves, then if you want, give her what she’s asking for. Also, stop letting her go to her grandparent’s house all the time. If you break the habit, she won’t demand it as much. If her tantrums continue though, you might have to smack her
