What other common mistakes do people make in their dating lives?
Many times somebody’s attraction to a type is pathological. Some people turn out to be nightmares, yet they continue to go after the same type over and over and over. That gets them locked in. One of the main other areas that gets people stuck, especially people of faith, is that they don’t really treat dating like the other areas of their lives that are successful. In all areas of their lives, they’ll take ownership of making those areas of their lives work for them. If you’re building a career, you work on yourself: you get your skills up, you get healthy, and you go on a lot of interviews to find the best company. Sometimes you use headhunters. That’s the same way that you find a community, the same way you make friends, the same way you go about all of life. But in this one area, people tend to think God’s just going to drop this person in their lap. They think there’s nothing that they have to do. They end up very passive about it. What I call on people to do is to take ownership
