What is the purpose of marriage councilling?
I went to marriage counselling a few years ago, when I found out my ex-husband had had an affair as well. It worked in so much as opening up. My ex-husband was a very closed person and rarely would talk about what was going on in his life. He had lots of issues (and still has!) and counselling helped him realise that it was ok for him to talk about these things. We looked into deeper issues and we learnt a lot of each other. Unfortunately, our marriage was damaged enough that counselling could not fix it, but I do and still recommend couples to go to counselling and try and figure out a way to fix the marriage. If you feel you are getting nowhere trying to fix your problems, then do go to counselling, especially if both of you want to fix it, but if you feel you are coping alright with it, then give it a bit of time. Don’t go because you HAVE to go, go because you FEEL you can go. I wish you all the luck!
Marriage counseling might help if you think you/your husband has a lot of repressed or unconscious negative feelings that will continue to affect your marriage. It might help you see different sides to your relationship that you won’t discover just talking though in most cases I think it is used to get you to open up more to each other and since you’re doing that you’re on the right track already. Still, there’s a chance it’ll help with the healing process as well as make you feel more proactive in sorting out your marriage. Maybe try a couple of sessions and see how it feels? If you don’t think it’s helping then, just give it up but continue to work on your marriage together. Don’t feel that just because you are not ‘in counseling’ that you don’t have to work on it.
Marriage counselling means that they make you talking about your wishes, fears and how you feel towards your partner, what you expect from your partner and in which way your partner did fraud you in the past. I don´t really think that 2 people need a counsellor to talk about their feelings and wishes. You need is find a golden way in the middle of all this chaos to get along well together and over it. You need to start to help yourself and nobody can help you better than you yourself. I think that psychological help is very necessary and useful to get over certain traumas and sort out problems we have with ourselves. Marriage counselling is different it means that there is a neutral person (the counsellor) who will lead the conversation in one direction or other and confront your opinions and your husbands and make you express what you want, how you feel and what you expect in the future. I think it is good institution for these marriages that are afraid to express their thoughts, feel
