What Is The Best Way To Reject Our Middle Child Without Hurting Her?
Question submitted March 1, 2004: My husband and I are in our early 80s and we have been successfully married for over 50 years. We had our three children later in life, they are now ages (Allen) 48, (Cassandra) 46 and (Victoria) 39. Those are not their real names. We were both “only” children and we felt it important to have more than one child. As a child, Allen was smart, happy and easy to please. Cassandra seemed intelligent but difficult and overly sensitive. Victoria, was unplanned but was happy, pretty and smart. When they played, Cassandra caused problems and fights, often tormenting, teasing and teaching bad things to Victoria. Allen and Victoria did well in school with a few friends, Cassandra achieved adequate marks with few friends. Cassandra never formed much of an attachment to us. I overheard her telling friends how she hated me. She never fit in. Her helping in the house always required help from me. She bothered her father when he was teaching Allen car maintenance. Vi
