What is the best way to overcome shyness?
Probably the best way to overcome shyness is Systematic (or Graduated) Desensitization. This is contrasted with a technique called “flooding,” in which the shy person is immediately exposed to a feared situation. This experience is supposed to be cathartic. This is the advice that is often given shy people. “You’ve got to mix and mingle with people-that’s the only way you’re going to overcome your shyness! Go to a party, and plunge right in!” This is something akin to telling someone who’s deathly afraid of water to plunge into the deep end of a swimming pool! Systematic desensitization, on the other hand, involves discovering what you are afraid of, breaking that feared activity down into smaller steps and finally taking those steps on one at a time, gradually moving from the easiest step to the most difficult. The first step toward practicing systematic desensitization is to list those situations which cause you shyness or anxiety. The list should be arranged in increasing order of d
