What is the best way to deal with verbal abuse from husband?
Verbal abuse will ALWAYS lead to physical abuse. Over time, you’re husband will become more and more confident, and he WILL cross that line and hit you. It is best to nip it earlier in the bud, before it gets out of hand. This is what you have to do: when you’re husband is in a relaxed mood, remember to gently bring up the topic of him verbally abusing you. Tell him that you don’t fell comfortable when he does that to you, and since you two love each other, he shouldn’t be doing that to you anyway. Remind of all the good times when you two were in deeply in love and tell him that it scares you when he verbally abuses you. If this doesn’t work, bring in outside help. Enlist the help of friends and family members; don’t be ashamed to approach them. Remember, if you do not nip this problem now, you will fell a thousand times more betrayed and hurt when he will hit you. If you’re husband gets the opportunity to hit you, he WILL hit you again. If that happens, live him immediately. Most peo
I do advocate work with victims of various kinds of abuse. Verbal abuse is often accompanied with some type of touching – either “putting a finger in front of someone face, tapping the shoulder or shoveling, pushing or blocking the victim’s ability to leave the site of the verbal abuser. Of course if you do not respond they might stop talking, but most want to elicit a response from you, therefore some get physical. If he is only using his mouth to attempt to degrade you and fight, only you can decide how much of this can you take. Will it drive you mad or do you need to leave? If he is a reasonably great mate otherwise, then you could try to talk to him and both attend anger management classes and/or seek couple therapy.
I found Verbal Abuse as away too fight it only in one way! You need too shell-it-out the same way as he does! Fight Fire with Fire in this case…. If ya ignore it, then it will just get worse or he may use this in some Power & control way and thats never good. Most men and some women use this too gain control and keep you from having any type of self worth… This way all they continue too do is Take & take and someday you either will get tirred of it or you will give into all the things they say….. Be stronger than that and once you begin too shell it back out, then they know they have crossed that line with you… Good Luck okay!
No, it’s not keep silent. The best way to finish an abus is to leve. The abuser does not understand, does not listen or repect the victim. It’s a waste of time try to keep silent or even give a good planned speach, it’s worthless. Do your own research on this subject. An abusive relationship does not get better, it only has its periods of “quiet” times, where the victim believes the person is changing or has started to change, and the victim will/can say this for many years, always hoping for a change, and is just that, hopes. The victim has also seen and probably remember times where things were doing good, but in the long run are just small fragments of enjoyable time, almost none, and is only an illusion due to her/his lack of self esteem, or strength to leave the relationship. Silent, a good speach, are basically a waste of the victim’s time. The abuser will hurt the victim because of something she/he said, and would also hurt her/his victim for not saying something, nothing works
1. Make a plan to leave. 2. Make sure you’re ready to execute the plan. 3. Tell him that it’s unacceptable to speak to you this way, and if he can’t stop on his own you will join him in marriage counseling. 4. If he refuses marriage counseling, explain that if he doesn’t stop, you will leave. 5. The next time he verbally abuses you, leave. Do not look back. Do not come back. 6. File for divorce. Do not believe his pleas and promises that he’s changed. If he attends counseling and anger management, and you want to give him the chance to change, live separately while he works through it. 7. If he still won’t work on it, and not on his own…anger like that needs professional help…finalize the divorce. 8. Live a happy and contented life without him. Now, having been through these steps, I’ll tell you that even after the divorce, he’ll try to be verbally abusive. I had three rules: Rule 1: The only acceptable conversation was about our child. Rule 2: I talked about nothing else with him.
