What is egoistic love ?
You fall in love with a person because you regard him or her as a value, and because they contribute to your personal happiness. Now you couldn’t fall in love with a person by saying: “You mean nothing to me, I don’t care whether you live or die, but you need me, and therefore, I’m in love with you.” If someone offered love of that kind, everyone would regard that as a deadly insult. That isn’t love. Therefore, romantic love is a selfish emotion. It is the choice of a person as a great value and what you fall in love with is the same values, which you choose, embodied in another person.