What is a good way to get started?
It is possible to form a BDSM relationship over the internet or telephone. Many people start out online. Some remain at this level only. If you are interested in venturing out and doing this with another person in the flesh, there are a few tried and true ways to meet people. For some, privacy is a concern. These people are not for what ever reason able to be open about being in the lifestyle, and thus are not able to be active in “the scene”. Their best bet would be to try to connect with someone online on a site like alt.com or bondage.com. The scene itself is not as scary as it may appear in your imagination. These are people with interests just like yours, most of whom have traveled the same path you are on. Local groups normally hold monthly or weekly events where new people can meet others with similar interests and where they can mingle with their friends. Two of the most non-threatening ways to meet people are munches and socials. A munch involves people getting together at a r
