What is a deal Breaker in a Relationship. Dishonesty, Cheating, Bad Temper, Apathy (not seeming to care ….?
I think abuse is the only absolute deal breaker that I have. Everything else you listed depends on the extent and circumstances. Apathy is probably next on the list of least tolerable, and I would probably only tolerate it if there is a really good reason (they are going through a rough time) and I believe it is temporary. Same thing with selfishness, there are times when a person needs to take care of themselves and be selfish, again I’ll go with it if there is a legit reason and temporary. Cheating is something that can certainly be a deal breaker, but there has been one occasion in my life where it was not. I gave this person another chance, so it is something I can live with as long as certain conditions are met. All the other stuff I can work with, unless it’s like a crazy constant pattern with no room for compromise.
When the root of the action is not love, then it causes harm. A person who is not grounded in the Word of God and who doesn’t honor God nor walk in His will is headed for trouble in their relationship. We all have our faults, but we should be willing to work toward the fruits of love. Lying, adultery and a murderous heart all come from sin. Those are all deal breakers… Make sure you are equally yoked when you chose your mate.
I have 2 absolute, clear-cut deal breakers: Cheating and abuse. If you cheat on me, I will never be able to trust again. You can forgive but never forget (cliche saying but fits here so well). Trust is the number one thing in a relationship. If you don’t have that, you don’t have anything. Also, abuse. If you hit me, it is over no matter what.
