What intelligent words can use to avoid arguing with my husband?
If your husband is as stubborn as he sounds, I don’t know if an argument can be avoided. You owe it to yourself and your unborn child to sit down with your husband and explain that this baby is his responsibility as much as yours. Saving money for emergencies is fine, as long as the needs of your family are met. A marriage is a partnership, but your husband is not treating you like an equal partner. You already know this. Sit down with him as soon as possible and be honest about your feelings. Good luck with everything and congrats on becoming a mom.
Don’t listen to all of these people who are saying, “yell at him, then have his mom yell at him, then his dad, then his boss, then the priest.” As I’m sure you know after being married for a while, yelling is a sure bet to get your communication moving backwards. Let him know that you appreciate his forethought in saving for a house, and for emergencies. But tell him that you think some of the money would be better used to prepare for your baby. I really believe that a respectful wife can tell a loving husband absolutely anything that’s on her heart, if she says it with love. You can, very sweetly, tell him that the fact that he hasn’t touched the money in so long makes you afraid that it might not be there, and that he’s not seeing the importance of caring for the coming baby. Remember to do it with love, and in a tone that doesn’t sound like you’re accusing him of lying to you, and if nothing else, you will have started a positive discussion that helps you understand your husband’s i
