What if the father pays child support, but has not seen his child in 2 yrs, but all of a sudden wants too?
Different states have different laws. In my state, he has a right to see her. Even if he wasn’t paying child support promptly or if he didn’t pay, he still has the right to see her. Yes, in my state, he could file contempt charges against you if you do not let him see her according to the original child parenting court agreement. Hopefully he will be sensitive enough to realize that it will take her a while to get acquainted with him…..short visits leading to a longer period of time such as a weekend. It doesn’t matter that he said he wanted to give up his parental rights. If he didn’t act on that thru the courts, he can even deny that he said that. In my state, a father can not give up his parental rights or responsibilites. He has to pay support and he has the right to parent.
I have a daughter that has just turned 3 too, her father has been paying child support since she was also about 5 months old, but he has never once seen her, nor do we currently have a court order. If he ever does decide to be in her life, he will have to get to know her first before i will allow him to just take her… and we will have a court order. You can’t just allow him to take her out of the house, you are right, in her eyes she will be leaving with a stranger, she doesn’t know him. She should meet with him for some time, in your home and then he should be allowed to see her. As a person who was kept from their father, i will tell you that keeping the child from him is the worst thing you can do. When she gets older she will find him and ask him why he never saw her… when he tells her he was an azz for a couple years and then you said that he wasn’t allowed to see her..you are going to be the azz all of a sudden! Trust me, i’ve been through it as a child. If you want to take h
Since he has been paying child support, he has every right to see her. I know it must be hard, since he hasn’t seen her, but he legally has the right to see her. If you feel that he’s going to be a bad influence on her, you can get a lawyer and fight for custody in court. Why not just let him come over to see her? I think you two should come to a compromise here, I would be a little iffy myself just letting him drive away with her. But, you never know, he may actually want something to do with her now. Maybe he grew up. Let’s hope so, anyway. Good luck! Edit: Apparently people misunderstood me. If the man pays child support, and the courts have NOT ruled that he is not allowed to see her, then he has every right. If you get this changed by the courts, then that’s a different story.
First of all child support and visitation have nothing to do with one another. If he has not been to see the child then you should see about getting the visitation orders changed. I would ask for supervised visitation. That way it is monitored and anytime he doesn’t show it will be recorded with the court. It will also assure that your daughter gets to know him before he takes her.
you would have to take him to court. If you do not have proof that he said he wanted to give up parental rights you can say it but it will have no impact because it is hearsay. You can also say he has not contacted her since 06 and say you feel that is abandonment. It may or may not have an impact, I am not sure how long before abandonment is considered. In my opinion you should say both of them because even if the first is not allowed, it has been heard. Also make it known that your chid does not know her dad. Bear in mind that going to court does not automatically mean you will get your way, in fact they may go so far as to give 50/50 custody if you live close enough to each other. That is what judges these days are wanting to do. If that is the case she will not only be spending some time with her dad, but half her time. week with each parent. Not easy but for some reason they think that it is in the best interest of the child to know both parents no matter how inconsistant it makes
