What does the bride pay for when it comes to bridesmaids?
That is ridiculous. You, with the other bridesmaids, need to sit her down and make it clear that her expectations are unreasonable and that financially you cannot make this commitment. Explain exactly what your budget can cover and what you cannot accommodate. You might say something like this: “Sarah, I’m really honored that you’ve asked me to be in your wedding, and I’m doing my best to be there for everything you need. However, I can’t meet your financial expectations. I am happy to pay for my own gown and other attire, but I cannot manage the monthly lunches, the amusement park, the spa services, the expensive hair and makeup, or the extra days in the hotel. What I could do is have my dress altered by my grandmother, meet for monthly bridesmaid coffee, have my hair OR makeup done, and I can meet you all at the hotel every morning. But if these compromises won’t work for you, then I’d like you to choose another bridesmaid. I love you, but I can’t make this financial commitment at th
