What do people self harm?
1. TO INFLICT GUILT Contrary to what you said, some people do self harm for attention; they want to wave their wounds around. They are involved in a depressive state of self pity where they want the pity of others and yet they are cynical and skeptical of others. 2. SELF CONTROL The other reason why someone might self harm, the answer you may be looking for, is to manifest their problems. When someone feels helpless, angry, or frustrated, sometimes they want to see their helplessness, see their anger, see their frustration and psychological pain become manifest. They hurt themselves and then immediately they feel guilt. They take pleasure in this guilt and it becomes an addictive cycle of self cruelty and guilt. However, they are ashamed of revealing their problems to others. Why do they want to manifest their problems? Well, because they can’t help to feel angry, frustrated, helpless. These are emotions that seem to come from external influences and are out of their control. Thus, the
There are tons of reasons. “Self-harming can be a way that people deal with feelings of: helplessness, despair and low self-esteem anger, loneliness, shame and guilt not having control over their life being ‘out of it’ – so the only way to feel ‘real’ is to cause physical pain to themselves. Some self-harm is related to severe emotional pain. When people have experienced abuse or violence, it often re-appears as emotional pain in later life. Some people have said that: When they hurt themselves physically, it helps take away the emotional pain. Self-harm makes internal pain visible on the surface. It is showing that there is a problem that needs to be addressed. Self-harm is a way that people punish themselves for something. People who harm themselves… may have difficulty expressing their feelings verbally may dislike themselves and their bodies may do it because of difficulties with relationships may do it because of mental health issues such as depression, anxiety or stress.
There are attention whore that self harm but most of them hide it, from my experience i can tell you at first it’s because of depression or anger or embarrassment or guilt or nerves or anxiety etc, after awhile of doing it you don’t even need a reason you get addicted and may just do it because you haven’t in awhile, that’s one thing that makes recovery so hard, even if you got to be super happy you may still want to do it after you haven’t in awhile.
