What can help with the approach-avoidance conflicts?
The most effective way to bring this about is to reduce the fear. The way to reduce the fear is to do the feared activity, think the fearful thoughts, feel the fearful feelings and stay with the fear experience long enough to process it in new ways. As we see nothing bad happens, the fear is reduced. One of the ways of processing is to articulate-speak-about what you are feeling more completely and experiencing them in nonverbal ways as well. The reason that fears can persist for so long is that every time we feel fear, and then avoid what we fear, we feel better immediately, but we prevent the extinction or erasure of fear to occur. Stress Diary Keeping a diary is the first step to taming the stress in your life. Jot down each time you feel stressed. Note the date and time in the first column and briefly describe the cause of the stress (stressor) in the second column. In the third column, write down what you were doing and where you were when the feeling hit. Next rate the degree of
