What are the steps to setting a boundary?
Setting a boundary requires you to: 1) Know your values. 2) Communicate your values and boundaries clearly and calmly. 3) Trust yourself and stand your ground. 4) Do what you said you would do – be congruent in your actions and follow up. When some of these are missing, you won’t feel as good about your communication, and the problem drinker is not likely to understand. At worst, your attempt to set a boundary may unintentionally support the drinking pattern. Step 1: Know your values. Everyone has personal values. You either live in alignment with them, or you don’t; both have consequences. Some of your values may conflict with one another and need clarification before going on. Coaching or counseling are available to assist you in your values relative to your situation. When you’re not clear about your values, conflicting values may leak out in the form of sending mixed messages. Your behavior may swing from appearing helpful and supportive at one moment to being resentful, critical,
