What are the most common traps engaged couples fall into while planning the wedding?
The most common trap is spending all of your time on planning — and I mean literally all of your time, so that you don’t have any time to sit down with your partner and connect. Equally important as couples spending time together — and this is where my work comes in — is each person individually taking time to explore what this transition means to them. If both people are overly involved in the planning they’re not going to slow down enough to look inside and say, I’m leaving an identity — what does that mean? I’m entering into marriage — what are my fears, what are my expectations? How can I prepare for this monumental transition? Women who don’t prepare for the transition to marriage often experience post-bridal depression and are not present for their first year of marriage. And because of the depression, the first thing they think is, have I made a mistake? What is “post-bridal depression”? Post-bridal depression is what happens when women throw themselves into the planning an
