What are the most common misconceptions about sex?
I think the No. 1 incorrect assumption that all people make is that all men respond the same and all women respond the same. That question of “tell me how to make love to a woman” is absurd. It’s preference; it’s taste. That across-the-board is the first thing that I want people to stop thinking–that what I did with one lover is going to work with another lover. Once you stop assuming that, it makes a huge difference. Are there any other common mistakes? The biggest mistake men make is that they move too fast. The average American man has an orgasm within two to four minutes of direct stimulation. The average American woman needs 20 minutes of stimulation. Doesn’t that explain a lot? Yes. So foreplay is important then. I don’t actually like the word foreplay. Because I think from the minute you start being intimate, you’re having sex. It’s just different kinds of sex. The goal is not orgasm; the goal is an intimate, creative, joy-filled experience. Sex starts now, and then it just kee
