What are the characteristics of a non – BP?
This list was written by a non – BP and posted on the internet — food for thought. • Desire to make others happy even at our own expense (co-dependency). • Not looking after our own needs. • Excessive flexibility. • A feeling we have to do better, and our best is never enough (perfectionism). • An inability to focus on ourselves and a tendency to be too easily led into focusing (unhealthily) on our BP. (It’s easier to think about other people’s problems than my own.) • Lack of clear boundaries (other people wouldn’t tolerate the raging). • A feeling we always know better (enough to drive even the sanest into a BP rage). • An intensity/devotion to commitment and fidelity … Intransigent hope coupled to expectation that we *must* be able to effect something positive to improve the circumstances. • Willingness to interpret the slightest “improvement” as undeniable progress. • Willingness to abandon ourselves, with determination to not “abandon” another and the inability to recognize tha
