What are the advantages of a trial separation?
Before actualy getting a divorce, it may be very helpful to just have a temporary separation. A separation which has rules for you and your spouse, where you decide you are going to have time apart to think about things, to disengage, to decrease the tension , decrease the intensity in the home and take stock of what you really have. For many people a separation allows them to think more clearly. The removal of that other spouse temporarily decreases the anger because anger clouds things and lets people think about what they want. So separations can be very helpful and they need rules. For some people, you may choose to date while you separated- that’s fine as long as both you and your partner are going to agree on that. Or you may agree that you are going to stay separate, not work on the marriage but work on yourselves. Or you may decide that you are going to separate and work on the marriage very activily but living in two different places to decrease the tention; to decrease the an
