What are some reasons people have affairs?
People have affairs for many reasons, and some people have affairs even though they are in perfectly happy relationships. Most people, however, have affairs to try and meet needs that are no longer being met in their primary relationship. Because honest communication is shut down in their relationship (or may never have existed in the first place) they did not have the tools to talk with their partner about what was going on—which ultimately blocked the couple from making changes in the relationship to meet unmet needs. There are many kinds of affairs (short-term, long-term, emotional, sexual, one night stands, etc.) but the common modern affair is both emotional and sexual. Most people do not go looking for an affair—they tend to slide into it after becoming friends with someone at work or in the social circle. After a time, an emotional connection develops which starts to include intimate sharing. Boundaries become blurred, and are then crossed. Once people have crossed their normal
